Why Not Me?

My entire life, I had been in awe of people who managed to truly be happy by doing what they love best and thriving at it! Just as described by David Ogilvy’s, “Find something you truly love doing and you’ll never work a day in your life.” Question was, how do you find that something that you love and that you’re good at? You’re definitely not born with it and how is it that some have uncovered that secret… how did the Richard Bransons and the Steve Jobs of the world do it? Please don’t mistake this with a wish for wealth… If anything, the beauty of this quest is that money is not the focus at all and just happens to come by default…

Great thing about this is that none of these people who “made it” are employed… they are entrepreneurs, freelancers: they are INDEPENDENT!

I made it my mission to find out how they did it… If there was a recipe, I wanted to know what it was… and here is what I found out… These people have all come up with a great idea to begin with… Sound familiar? Heck how many great ideas have you come up with in your lifetime? Thing is, they then set a plan for the idea and started to work towards achieving it. Then came the challenges and pitfalls, all of which were taken on full frontal with persistence and resilience until they reached their target. From that point on, it was just a matter of setting new goals and moving from one success to the next.

Although it sounds fairly simple, it is much harder to realize than one can imagine. Reason being, there is another component at play here and a common denominator these successful individuals share: SELF-CONFIDENCE! People who have acquired it are pretty much geared for success in anything they set their minds to and believe in themselves and their ideas enough to go after them. I say acquired because the reality is that self-confidence is not a vaccine your parents give you as a child, it is the reward that stems from a series of achievements – big and small.

Call it what you will; gutsy, brave, courageous, fearless… Abraham Mazlo would call it self-actualization and he believes that less than 1% of adults actually reach it, but the bottom line is it is to fulfill one’s highest potential.

There is a multibillion dollar industry of self-help books out there all carrying the magic recipe, the key to unlocking our full potential however; we could spend our lifetime rotating between therapy and self-help books and it would still not be enough because unfortunately, there is not a single magic tip in the world that can speed up this process.

Truth is, we build our confidence layer by layer as we learn to handle life better and become more positive with our outlook irrespective of what people might think of us. Mostly, we learn to finish what we start.

It starts with truly taking charge of our lives and stop playing victims of circumstances and the lack of opportunities. No matter who we are or what kind of lifestyle we lead, mistakes and failures do happen and the only way to evolve and overcome is to review every situation – briefly to avoid dwelling – learn the lesson at hand and derive positive strength from it before the final step of moving on.

Successful people dare to dream and pursue their dreams with passion believing they CAN reach them. What are your dreams? This blog was one of mine 🙂


 

 

 

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About Rouba

Rouba a.k.a. Roobz, was born in Lebanon in 1975. She is a communications consultant who has been working with brands and companies across the Middle East and North Africa for the past 20 years. Rouba is also a writer, singer and songwriter who has been performing since the age of 7. She is known for her outspoken views on women’s rights and constant encouragement to those around her. The Lebanese native lived in the US and around the Middle East before relocating to Dubai in 2013 where she lives with her husband and two children, Omar and Naya. In 2011, she began her quest to “Find Her Venus” and fulfill her lifelong goal of recording and launching her first music album which was released in 2012. Today she manages her own boutique communications agency in Dubai and performs at Musichall - one of the most sought out live music clubs in the country. You can view some of her videos on www.youtube.com/roubazeidan

9 Responses to Why Not Me?

  1. Melkan says:

    Nice Article! Keep the spirit rouba and best of luck.

  2. michele moosh says:

    “Experience tells you what to do, self confidence allows you to do it” Stan Smith

    Very nice……… Go, Rouba, Go!!!

    • rouba says:

      Absolutely spot on Michele!! Once you know what you want to do and you go after it all you need is to stick with it! thanks for the encouragement… here’s to keeping this baby going! 🙂

  3. Racha says:

    How does one know what they love doing?

    • rouba says:

      The starting point is building your self-confidence one small achievement at a time and prove to yourself that you finish what you start… Most importantly to reach a point where you are able to believe in your ideas enough to pursue them… Go through your list of ideas – all of us have them… pick the one that means the most to you and then just focus on it and go all the way…!

  4. ali azarmi says:

    congratulations on getting your blog up and running 🙂
    I think we are born with that which we love. It’s just that with layers of time it gets hidden by excuses.
    If we dig deep and honestly, we’ll find it. Some of use stumble upon it. As for successful people, who are they exactly? Do they all really love what they do? Many are successful in business but hate what they do. Happiness has nothing to do with success. Some of the happiest people are the poorest of Africa.

    • rouba says:

      Thanks Ali! 🙂 I’m not sure about being born with it for the majority… not all of us are the child prodigies and the likes of Mozart – I wish! 🙂 however; experience and the excuses you mentioned sometimes push us the farthest away from what we love… God knows a lot of us just wind up shelving their dreams and refer to it in their later years as “I had a dream”… Surely, many people can be successful at what they do but unhappy… the utopia I am aiming for is one that combines the two… in my view, if I am doing what I love doing and succeeding at it then I’m happy! Whether in Africa, zimbabwe or New York – the geography doesn’t matter anymore so long as I feel that I am fulfilling myself and not letting my talents and passions rust away…

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