Sure, life is tough… So what? Think you’re the only one who has their share of issues and challenges? Everything in life is relative, and so what bothers one person might not affect another, but the fact remains that each of us have their own personal threshold of tolerance and once they reach it, they too can crack under the pressure…

Trick is to minimize the dwelling and move into practical damage containment mode asap! Of course, we can get frustrated with something, pissed off with someone, furious with a situation, but eventually that feeling will subside and things naturally get better. Even though it might seem in that moment like the world has come to an end, it really hasn’t! If you observe older wiser people under stress, they tend to be more composed and in their element because they know full well that this is just another bridge they will have to cross… Psychologists confirm the theory that with age people do get wiser when it comes to handling stress because they learned that every single situation is indeed manageable one way or another.

Dr. Stephen Covey, who came up with the infamous Seven Habits of Highly Effective People believes that for every action that triggers a reaction in us, we have the right to choose how to react. I must admit that theoretically, that sounds really effective – only problem is that I’m am not some guru sitting at a monastery at the top of the Himalayas mountains! I am living in the midst of all the action where it can get really challenging to perform a little “ommm” session to soothe myself… Only thing I CAN do is work on my reaction to try and reduce the climax point and then focus on the most important part: getting over it!

When people ask me “how are things” my response is always “they are just how they are intended to be”… Good, bad, up or down is irrespective really because we have to learn to embrace life fully with its bittersweet flavors… If we fall into the “why me” pit it will only prolong our suffering… Life is too short to inflict such unnecessary misery…

If we stop for a single moment and consider the millions of people on this planet who are suffering from incurable diseases, hunger, AIDS, poverty, homelessness, loss of loved ones, loss of a limb, and can still find a way to smile, then you know what? We need to relax!

One of the key factors in the recovery process of diseases as grave as cancer is the attitude of patients and their optimism towards life in spite of the major illness dominating their physical being. I have seen amazing recoveries by women and men alike when they chose to focus on the bright side of things and the beauty of it is that there is always something positive to get us through…

Whenever things get rough, I always remind myself of one my favorite quotes by Reinhold Niebuh: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

This too shall pass!


About Rouba

Rouba a.k.a. Roobz, was born in Lebanon in 1975. She is a communications consultant who has been working with brands and companies across the Middle East and North Africa for the past 20 years. Rouba is also a writer, singer and songwriter who has been performing since the age of 7. She is known for her outspoken views on women’s rights and constant encouragement to those around her. The Lebanese native lived in the US and around the Middle East before relocating to Dubai in 2013 where she lives with her husband and two children, Omar and Naya. In 2011, she began her quest to “Find Her Venus” and fulfill her lifelong goal of recording and launching her first music album which was released in 2012. Today she manages her own boutique communications agency in Dubai and performs at Musichall - one of the most sought out live music clubs in the country. You can view some of her videos on

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